We all have been created with a purpose and as we walk that journey it is imperative for us to keep a close watch on the company that we keep. A watch on the ones that we have chosen to call our friends. The people that we allow ourselves to be surrounded by will radiate our perception of morality. The perception of morality can hinder the effectiveness of our mission and the reaching of our goals. As we grow in success we must pay close attention to our circle and get rid of any negative influences. We cannot drop our guard and allow our merit and character standard to slip and allow negativity to enter.
Yesterday, there was a report that was released of yet another celebrity who has been arrested on drug charges and the police also found numerous handguns. This celebrity’s lawyer released a statement saying that “We are extremely confident that when the facts come out, [celebrity] will not be associated with the contraband that was allegedly discovered.” In other words the statement is saying that the contraband belong to the other people on the bus, his friends. Another report was released today saying that a famous singer was video taped doing some type of drug and the video was then uploaded to social media by her friends. Both of these cases as well as numerous others are testament of the importance of being aware of the company that we keep.
This had me thinking about what kind of friends that these celebrities have around them. Is there no one around to willing to give them a reality check; no one around him to pull them to the side that their environment or actions is not good for them? To many times have we seen celebrities in the news for something that is bad and I wonder what is the purpose of celebrities being surrounded by teams of people if no one in the circle is holding their best interests up and to heart?
What came to me was that the word “friend” is thrown around so loosely that it has lost its merit and the character of what it is meant to be. Anytime something loses its merit and character in any way it has already given into a form of corruption, falsification, or misuse at some measure.
Here are a few check points to identify who needs or will need weeding out.
1. Beware of the enablers or the “yes” friends:
On any level of success there are enablers or “yes” people attached. Enablers are people who encourage the acts of a person making it easier for one to continue a self-destructive path without any conviction. It does not matter the level of success you have reached no one is right all the time; no one is invincible; and no one is entitled to anything because any level of success achieved is achieved only by the grace and the mercy of God.
Proverbs 27:6 states “Faithful are the wounds of a friend, But deceitful are the kisses of an enemy. “ ESV
People who we consider “real friends” will hurt us every now and then in love and with the truth. Real friends are not enablers; they will not sit idly by and watch us continue on a destructive path. A “real friend” let us know when we are off track and wheel us back in whether they make us angry or sad.
2. Beware of friends that present moral challenges:
1 Corinthians 15:33 says “Do not be deceived: ‘Bad company corrupts good morals.’” ESV
Perception is a powerful thing and it has an effect on someone like none other. Whatever we allow ourselves to be exposed to we give permission for it enter into are spirit. In any situation one of two things happens: either you affect the situation or are affected by the situation. This scripture warns to take note of our environment, which includes are friends, and what we are allowing ourselves to be subjective to. Our association, what we are exposed to, will determine our perception. Exposing ourselves to an environment, whether good or bad, for a length of time will have us accepting it as the norm. This is how constant exposure to a bad environment can corrupt good morals.
3. Beware of unaccountability and lack of trust
Proverbs 18: 24 says “A man of too many friends comes to ruin, But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.” ESV
Despite the level of success we need someone to hold us accountable for our actions and someone we can confide in. A man of too many friends comes to ruin because within those many friends are more bad than good. There will be friends that would deny them, while some will betray them and others will doubt them. We must shrink our circle and put people in there respected places as the expression goes “some people are friends and others are associates”.
The “friend” in the second part of the scripture is referring to Jesus; and I believe that this symbolic of how we should chose the people we allow in a circle. Jesus is a true friend, He loves us when we at our best or worst, sick or well, broke or rich, depressed or happy. Jesus is a true friend He will tell us when we have gone off and then stay to wheel us back in. Jesus is a true friend He can be trusted with the deepest of secrets. Now, there is never going to be a better friend than Jesus but He gives us an idea of the caliber of people we should give the privilege of calling a friend.
To my readers:
I want to implore to you the importance in making sure that your foundation is strong. I believe that God has great things in store for each person that reads this and the level that you are currently at is not the end. This is another level of success and another victory for you to experience. As your walk in God continues I pray that God surrounds you with the right people to call friends and that these friends will be true friends that will push you towards your goal but pull you if you go off track. I pray these friends be the ones that will tell the truth with love and the right motives. I also pray that God will give each you the discernment to know who is a friend and who is an associate and the strength to put them in the appropriate place. And for God to open your eyes to who have ulterior motives and remove those who have been negatively affecting you. I decree divine connections and people of wisdom to be in the circle of friends. In Jesus' name, Amen.
“He who walks with wise men will be wise, But the companion of fools will suffer harm” Proverbs 13:20 ESV
Be blessed and Be encouraged,
Ewing Ikard II
Reflect. Inspire. Change.